Why do we do what we do?

The easy answer would be to earn money but if we don’t actually enjoy the work then a career spanning 45 years or more looks a long way away. I enjoy what I do for a number of different reasons. 1. I have always been interested in people’s behaviour. When I focused on sales, I […]

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Listening – Confidential, non-judgemental and non-advice

I started volunteering for Samaritans many years ago when I was in Bournemouth, away from my family, with time to spare. It was around the same time that I was training to be a coach and my listening skills, particularly on the telephone, benefited amazingly. So how is volunteering for the Samaritans different being a […]

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Why I enjoy being a coach, mentor or supervisor of coaches

I suppose I could be well retired by now; playing golf and being your archetypal granddad but I am rubbish at golf and probably the same at being a granddad. I have just been in touch with the a chap who whetted my appetite for coaching when I met him doing my neuro-linguistic programming (known […]

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Coming out from under that stone

Or how to make a difference As one gets older it is quite easy to pull back from things and revert to the more natural you. A good example of this is making presentations. In my corporate life I forced myself to present in front of many sizeable audiences, but now that I don’t have […]

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Start with Why

I was invited to a collaboration morning with Strategic UK, Darren Berry and his team last month when I was kindly given a book called “Start with Why” by Simon Sinek. It was interesting because as a coach, one of the questions we were trained never to ask, was WHY as it can be seen […]

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What do you want in your career?

I think this question is applicable whether you are in your 20’s, as a new successful graduate, or in your 50’s, when things can look very different after a successful career. I can vaguely remember in my 20’s when I was guided by my Dad into a career in insurance at Royal Insurance’s head office […]

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Time for bed – Zebedee!

I recall the time of about a year, when I suffered from lack of sleep and it had nothing to with drinking or not going to bed early enough, or even when our children were babies. It was when I had a stressful job, when I was working away from home throughout the week and […]

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Are you on form?

I have taken all of the thoughts for this article from Mike Brearley’s book “On Form”. Although Mike was a cricketer, he is a lot more than that and hopefully the following points he makes in his book are very transferable to other things. I must admit, the deeper I read into the book, the […]

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What is our sense of purpose?

This topic, what is our sense of purpose, struck me after reading a circular from the person who trained me as a coach 14 years ago! It said “lots of people I’ve encountered have been so busy trying to achieve wealth status and security that they’ve confused this with a real sense of purpose. Purpose […]

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Does being a perfectionist help you?

In November I was fortunate to go to a presentation by Nicola Arnold and Sanela Lukanovic on ‘debunking the myths on Perfectionism and Self Compassion’.  This was what I took away from the seminar bearing in mind I am NOT a perfectionist but in the last 14 years I have coached many people who are. […]

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